A free tool from the book Date 96
How long until you meet your person?
Anya tracked one hundred offline dates in a spreadsheet and married number 96. This calculator runs your numbers the same way, at your current pace, and then running her experiment.
The method behind the numbers
The Intentional Dating Blueprint
Six stages, from the book, that turn dating from a waiting game into an experiment you run.
1
Prepare
Get honest about readiness, retire the old stories, and decide what you are actually looking for before you look.
Covered in depth in the book
2
Expand
Serendipity needs a spine. Widen your circles deliberately so new people can actually cross your path.
Covered in depth in the book
3
Signal
Say the sentence out loud. Let friends, colleagues and connectors know you are open and what for.
Covered in depth in the book
4
Engage
Thirty minute first dates, a sustainable dose, and texting rules that keep you sane. Every date is data.
Covered in depth in the book
5
Discern
Green, amber, red. Patterns beat promises, and calm is a signal too.
Covered in depth in the book
6
Decide
Build or bow out, on evidence. The Monday test, not the Saturday feeling.
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Six questions before you start
- Could you say, out loud, that you are actually looking?
- Does your week honestly have two spare hours in it?
- Have you retired the story that all the good ones are taken?
- Would you go on a thirty minute coffee date this fortnight if it were arranged?
- Can you treat an awkward date as data rather than a verdict?
- Do you know what your green, amber and red signals are?
Anything less than six yeses is exactly what the first chapters of the book are for.
Take the full Readiness ScorecardStart where the experiment started
Ready for the guided version? The Dating Experiment runs the whole method live.